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A friend of mine has 3 biological children and is also a foster mother. She began to offer respite foster care to a little boy starting at 8 weeks old. His primary foster family was a very experienced older couple. The only difference was that this older experienced foster family always fostered children, not babies. This new little baby boy had been born to a mom addicted to methamphetamines. The foster family was unprepared to see signs of the baby's lack of meeting milestones. As my friend began to notice warning signs, because she raised her own three children from infancy, she insisted that he see specialists and have care to help his development. She ended up adopting him. Each child born addicted to drugs can have different symptoms. Her new son at 6 months could not hold his head up or roll over. She began to advocate for him and he began to receive physical therapy, occupational therapy and speech therapy through feeding sessions. An underlying issue was that her son had low muscle tone. The biggest difference in his progression was removing him from daycare. My friend, his mother, is very proactive and implemented all the therapies he was receiving into their daily activities. At three years old the main concern is his speech articulation. People outside his family only understand about 50% of what he is saying. By age 3, 75% of a child speaks should be understood by those outside the family. During my own observations with him for assignments I have noticed that his fine motor skills are behind. He is unable to use child scissors without assistance, when asked to draw a face he is at a loss for what to put on it. His strengths are gross motor skills. He loves to kick, jump and run. He currently attends a public preschool , 5 days a week, for children at risk. He receives speech therapy in individual and group sessions at school. A new revelation was learned recently at the dentist, a small cleft palate was discovered in his mouth which the dentist said is mostly likely causing his poor speech articulation. They believe it will close by itself eventually. The dentist also said that he sees this type of cleft palate frequently in children born to drug addicted mothers. His adopted mother has also been warned that her son may be show signs of Oppositional Defiance Disorder (ODD) and was encouraged to join support groups to navigate his upcoming years. This story does not end with adoption #1. This little boy has 3 cousins who have been taken into state custody, ages 3,2 and 1. Two of the cousins have varying levels of traumatic brain injury due to being shaken by their father. Because my friend fostered them at different times during their lives she was the person asked first if she wanted to adopt them. She said yes. She is near the end of the adoption process. The two children with TBIs will also need special education services and she does not know the long-term prognosis of their TBIs. While this second adoption group was being processed she was called and informed that her adopted son's mother is pregnant again and in jail. She is still on drugs. This new baby will also be taken away from her. The new baby will also test positive for methamphetamines. Drugs are not just ruining our current neighbors, friends and family members, they are ruining future neighbors, friends, and family members. Our future society will have numerous children and future adults with seen and unseen disabilities due to parental drug use. A quote by Russell Brand about his drug addiction: “The mentality and behavior of drug addicts and alcoholics is wholly irrational until you understand that they are completely powerless over their addiction and unless they have structured help, they have no hope.”
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September 2019
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